Any one that has known me in the past 8 years has either met or at least heard about Teresa. I started to babysit for Teresa when she was pregnant with the twins over 8.5 years ago. I started by coming over to play with Cyrus as Teresa and Merhan decided he should get to know me before his brothers were born. At first, the plan was for me to come over once or twice a week so Cyrus would have someone to play with as mom and dad would be busy with work and the twins so they wanted to make sure he would have some attention all to himself. Very shortly after the twins were born, 5 days to be exact, things changed. Teresa was in a lot of pain from a pinched nerve on her neck and had to be taken to the E.R.. That was the first night I started babysitting over night. That summer, the summer before my junior year of High School, I came over a couple times during the week to help with the boys and 2 or 3 nights a week to stay up with the boys so Teresa and Merhan could sleep. Back then, MTV still showed music videos so I would set up my "bed" in the living room with a baby on each side and watch videos and nap on and off.
The following spring I got to help them move in to their new house. The twins were 9 months old at the time. I continue to help out on weekends, breaks from school, and whenever else they needed me.
When the twins were 18 months old Teresa and Merhan split up. I was at UNC-G by this point. I came home on the weekends T had the boys to help out. I also lived with T and the boys over the holidays and summers. T would jokingly introduce me as her wife as I was around to help with the kids or do things like laundry, grocery shopping, help organize the bills or whatever random projects Radius needed done so she could spend more time with the boys. I have many, many memories of T. From our yearly beach trip with the boys, to holidays with her family and mine, harder things like packing up her old house on Manora Lane, the death of John and so many others. T was like an older sister to me. We didn't always see eye to eye on things but she was there to help me with things, but she also needed my help at times. She used to say that I was there to take care of not only the boys but of her as well.
Back in March she found out there was mass in her lungs. They soon discovered it was cancer and that they couldn't operate. In the months after that she went through chemo and radiation. I have never had anyone close to me be sick before and I didn't realize how sick she was in till very late in the game.
This past Sunday her close friends sent out and email to let everyone know she was in the hospital and not doing well. On Monday afternoon mom and I went to go visit her. Teresa had passed away just 30 minutes before that.
Today I had a new experience I would have never hoped to have had. Today was Teresa's funeral. The service was wonderful, we sang some of her favorite hymns, friends shared stories about T, and there was a wonderful picture montage. We also got to listen to a recording she had made for the boys. After the service we went out to the grave site. After the funeral it was time to celebrate her life! When Teresa moved to the Carrboro house she was planning to have a big party, and tonight we had that party for her.
Teresa had many close friends, many of whom have been her best friends since college, some ever before that. I have always admired how her friends were like family to her. They have always been there for her and each other no matter what. They don't all live in town, nor do they all agree on everything but they have always been there.
In a couple weeks I will be helping her friends pack up her house and I am guessing how I feel now is nothing compared to how hard that will be. I have lost a good friend but I know I will see her in heaven some day. But, I can't imagine how her boys, or friends who don't share her faith must feel.
I am asking you to please pray for her boys, her friends/family, and Merhan who will know be raising Kaveh, Jahon (8) and Cyrus(10).
I also want to encourage you to tell the people you love just how important they are to you and to reconnect with people you care about. Nothing is big enough deal or a big enough fight to loose a friendship and you never know how long they will be around for.
To all my friends thank you for being there for me.
Everyone of you has made a great impact in my life even if I haven't talked to you in years please know that you still mean a lot to me.
thanks for reading!